The Doctor is in. You can call me Dr. Darry. I help people with their relationship questions. I usually answer questions in the "Singles & Dating category". Believe it or not, I am only fourteen, but I help people older than me with their love problems. Don't believe it? As of 11/04/2013 I have answered 95 questions and received 28 best answers in Yahoo! Answers. So if you have a relationship question, just ask and I will be happy to assist you. :^)

 

jade-a-raimondi asked
There's this guy, right? His name is Darry. He's kind of one of my closest friends and helps me through almost every situation, relationship related-or not! How do I tell him that I really appreciate having him around and how much he means to me? Just like that? ;) Lol Thank you Darry, you're really sweet. Can't wait for you to get back on Openstudy!

~happy tears~

Aw, Jade. :’)  The mdoerators at OpenStudy hate me now.  I should be un-banned now, but I’m still banned.  Just turning into a hipster and tumblin’. (-O-O)

Anonymous asked
My ex and I broke up in November and he has a new girlfriend. I wouldn't mind, except, he told her he loved her only 5 days after we broke up. Her and I are really good friends and she's the one who told me. I try really hard not to be mad at him and he wants to be friends still, what do I do?

I really don’t get what he means when he says that he only loved her five days after you and him broke up.  I am assuming you mean that he said that he no longer loves her (your friend).  If you are mad at him, but prefer not to show it, take some space away from him.  Tell him you need space at the moment.  Hopefully he will understand.  If he is one to burst out asking why and starting a discussion, just tell him you just need space away and leave.

Anonymous asked
I've been in love with my friend for over three years now. He is a quiet and serious guy he likes to keep things to himself. I am his closest friend that is a girl. I want to tell him but I don't know how. I don't want to lose him.

Tell him how you feel.  It’s really as simple [and awkward] as that.  One day, when you two are having some kind of fun, tell him, “Hey…I just want to let you know that…I think I kind of love you…” and just tell him how you feel about him.

Anonymous asked
Do you have a girlfriend? If you do what do you love about her? If you don't, then sorry bro.

I don’t have a girlfriend at the moment.  You don’t have to be sorry.  I know that when I do not have a girlfriend I am improving myself.  That is what I like to do when I don’t have one at the moment. :)

Anonymous asked
How can I make my boyfriend feel special? I'm trying to make him happier and more willing to be around me. I want to know ways to make him happy. What do guys like from girls and what can I do to make him happy? Any suggestions?

Dear Anonymous:

It really isn’t what they say that boys like. You have to observe him yourself and see what he likes. For example, you might get answers saying that guys like sports, sex, beer, sleeping, etc… but even though that might be what most guys like and even what your boyfriend like it is not what every guy likes. I don’t like beer and I HATE sports. That is why you should see what he likes. Once you do so then try to find an activity that relates to what he likes. For example, maybe your boyfriend likes working out in the gym. You guys can go to a local YMCA together and do do activities together. Maybe he likes animals. You guys can go to different zoos, maybe get a membership of one and go whenever he wants to and maybe even get him a pet.

Please please please make sure that you find something that you both like. A lot of times a girl gets something for a guy that he likes, but she is ind of like impatient and watching her man have fun. That is why it is extremely important to find something that you both like. Also, it doesn’t have to be something that is a “like”. He might like different stuff, but maybe you want to be more healthy so you two go to the gym together every week. So it doesn’t have to necessarily be a “like”. You guys can go to the gym every week like I said, you guys can go on weekly dates or restaurants every week. Maybe you two can even explore the city and go to places you two have never even been two. It is just the adventure of dating. :-} Hope I helped.

Will Wearing Lingerie Make Him Feel Special?

My boyfriend says I don’t make him feel special.  Long story short, my boyfriend feels jealous and insecure about what I’ve done in the past with my ex and says I don’t do anything for him that makes him feel special.  I’ve never worn lingerie and am actually quite insecure about my body, but do you think if I wear a corset with garters and thigh high tights for him, he’ll be happy and feel special?  I would love to cook for him, clean for him, massage him and wake him up with a blow-job but that’s not possible right now as i am not physically with him at the moment.

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Answer:

Well first of all, it seems that he is just wanting some boom-boom. When a boy or girl is truly in love with each other, they should feel tingles in their hearts at least for the first year. If you don’t like to wear lingerie, don’t where it. Don’t change because of him, only change yourself if it is going to make you better. Sit down with him and tell him that he doesn’t feel special then does he really love you? He will probably start a discussion, but it is the right thing to do. Feeling special is when its your birthday or when he kisses you, not when your partner is wearing something you call “sexy”.

Anonymous asked
It's been a week and 3 days since my boyfriend broke up with me after 1 year and 5 months and I'm literally heart broken I want to talk to him about how I feel but I don't want him to be put off by me. I feel like I've lost myself and I don't have any support. I still love him and I don't know how he feels. I just don't know what to do.

Okay, first off, I want to tell you that this is very common.  I just don’t want you to feel like you’re the only one experiencing this.  ;]

Anyways, I do think the best thing to do would be to go and ask him why he broke up with you.  Please make sure to bring tissues because it is almost always something that will make you cry.  Here are possible reasons why he broke up with you:

  • Not enough sex
  • Not enough time together
  • Same ‘ole, Same ‘ole (this means that it’s the same routine and there is nothing new in this relationship)
  • Starting to act like friends instead of a couple
  • Or even something that you do that he does not like, but you don’t notice you do it.

Make sure you know that these are not all the possibilities.  I just named the most common ones (in no particular order).

Now, it’s okay to cry and even if you don’t want to the best way is to ask him.  It will not only make you better in your future relationships, but also make you a better person, a better friend, a better mother, a better daughter, a better co-worker, a better everything.  Try to see if he wants to get back with you. Id not, it’s okay.  :-)

-Dr. Darry (Author of i-need-love-help.tumblr.com & interpersonal-attraction.tumblr.com)

livansivan asked
I said i liked him. (We've been knowing each other for over 1 mounth ang we've seen each other 5 times.) He said he was not looking for something... seriously. He said I was funny and nice to be with. Should I try to win him over, because I really wnat to try and fight? (One time we said goodbye he stoped me from going away and kissed me. He was like "im just going for it".)

Livasivan:

So sorry for the late reply.  I had the flu and I’ve been busy.  Terribly sorry.  Anyways, to your question.

It seems that you are attracted to a male who also seems to be attracted to you.  You want to know if you should try to get together with him even though he is not looking for something serious.First, I am going to tell you what he might mean when he says he doesn’t want something serious.  The reason I say “might” is because there are different men who have different reasons.  Here are some reasons why he says so.  Please make sure that it could be any of these reasons but not all:

  • He’s had a difficult last relationship - what I mean by this is that he probably had a relationship in his past with someone who traumatized him.  Maybe he had a relationship with a girl who kept talking about a baby and marriage and all that stuff, which probably really scared him and he’s scared that you might do the same.
  • He might not be over his ex-girlfriend
  • He might of lost someone in his family or be going through a rough time which might make him fear that he will be too distant from you
  • (this kind of connects with reason 1) He might  be scared that you would want to move in with him or him move in with you
  • Worst-Case Scenario:  He might have a disorder or problem that he might fear will ruin his relationship with you.  He also might cheat, which means that if you catch him, he’ll want to remind you that the relationship is not serious.

Please be advised that he might have one of these, he might not.  He definitely won’t have all of these and did you know that only 30% of men cheat?  Anyways, sorry for not having a good list.  I’m off today.  And the most common reason is the first bullet.  So in this relationship, don’t try to bring up marriage, kids, and house-moving.

Anyways, I think you should try to tell him, in a way, that you understand that he doesn’t want a serious relationship.  Try to do dating, like going out.  Dinner dates, walks to the park, that stuff.

If you need additional help, you can always ask again.  Remember to use your username again so I can remember you.  E-Mail coming soon!

-Dr. Darry (Author of i-need-love-help.tumblr.com & interpersonal-attraction.tumblr.com)

Anonymous asked
There is this guy and I have never talked to him, but I like him very very much for more than a year. Every time I see him my heart beats faster and my hands start shaking and I can't say a single word. He is in my mind everytime and the only reason why I like going to school. A few days ago he started looking into my eyes everytime when I see him. But how can I get to talk to him? I only see him at school and there he is with his friends all the time and I think we are both quite shy. I really

P.S.:  I think you didn’t get to finish asking your question!  Don’t worry.  :-)  You can continue asking the question if needed.  Your ID is #0003.

Okay, let me try to answer what I have.  So I understand that you are very attracted to this boy and you would like to have “the guts” to finally go and talk to him.  Okay.  Guess what, I might be a person that helps people with relationship problems, but I have the same problem as you!  I get so shy sometimes, but every time, I try a little harder and a little harder and finally, with out even expecting it, I just finally speak up.  That is what you have to do.  If you cannot do it all at once, every time you see him, get closer and closer.  The right time comes.  You never know - maybe he’ll come to you.  :-)

Any other questions?  Your ID is #003 - E-Mail coming soon!

-Dr. Darry (Author of i-need-love-help.tumblr.com & interpersonal-attraction.tumblr.com)