The Doctor is in. You can call me Dr. Darry. I help people with their relationship questions. I usually answer questions in the "Singles & Dating category". Believe it or not, I am only fourteen, but I help people older than me with their love problems. Don't believe it? As of 11/04/2013 I have answered 95 questions and received 28 best answers in Yahoo! Answers. So if you have a relationship question, just ask and I will be happy to assist you. :^)
Okay, first off, I want to tell you that this is very common. I just don’t want you to feel like you’re the only one experiencing this. ;]
Anyways, I do think the best thing to do would be to go and ask him why he broke up with you. Please make sure to bring tissues because it is almost always something that will make you cry. Here are possible reasons why he broke up with you:
Make sure you know that these are not all the possibilities. I just named the most common ones (in no particular order).
Now, it’s okay to cry and even if you don’t want to the best way is to ask him. It will not only make you better in your future relationships, but also make you a better person, a better friend, a better mother, a better daughter, a better co-worker, a better everything. Try to see if he wants to get back with you. Id not, it’s okay. :-)
So sorry for the late reply. I had the flu and I’ve been busy. Terribly sorry. Anyways, to your question.
It seems that you are attracted to a male who also seems to be attracted to you. You want to know if you should try to get together with him even though he is not looking for something serious.First, I am going to tell you what he might mean when he says he doesn’t want something serious. The reason I say “might” is because there are different men who have different reasons. Here are some reasons why he says so. Please make sure that it could be any of these reasons but not all:
Please be advised that he might have one of these, he might not. He definitely won’t have all of these and did you know that only 30% of men cheat? Anyways, sorry for not having a good list. I’m off today. And the most common reason is the first bullet. So in this relationship, don’t try to bring up marriage, kids, and house-moving.
Anyways, I think you should try to tell him, in a way, that you understand that he doesn’t want a serious relationship. Try to do dating, like going out. Dinner dates, walks to the park, that stuff.
If you need additional help, you can always ask again. Remember to use your username again so I can remember you. E-Mail coming soon!
Well, tell me when you’re ready to sell them. I’m your biggest fan. ;D
P.S.: I think you didn’t get to finish asking your question! Don’t worry. :-) You can continue asking the question if needed. Your ID is #0003.
Okay, let me try to answer what I have. So I understand that you are very attracted to this boy and you would like to have “the guts” to finally go and talk to him. Okay. Guess what, I might be a person that helps people with relationship problems, but I have the same problem as you! I get so shy sometimes, but every time, I try a little harder and a little harder and finally, with out even expecting it, I just finally speak up. That is what you have to do. If you cannot do it all at once, every time you see him, get closer and closer. The right time comes. You never know - maybe he’ll come to you. :-)
Any other questions? Your ID is #003 - E-Mail coming soon!
I might make an E-Mail for this blog. Hm. I am not sure. I think I should wait ‘til this blog gets more popular. I mean, I just need something like contacts to remember all the names of people.
First, I just want to say, there must be many guys who like you. They just haven’t met you.
Okay, so you are saying that you were in a relationship with a guy and you two broke up. You believe it is your fault. You guys are still friends, which is an awesome thing, and you believe he still is attracted to you. You also accept advice from your friends, which say to ask him out, but every time you want to make a date, he says he cannot go.
Okay. One day go to him and ask him when he is available to go out on a date. Some people, And I think this would be including him, think that just because partners were in a relationship, then broke it off, cannot get back together. That is wrong. This is a free country, and whether you don’t live in the US, there is no law against ex-partners getting back together.
If he thinks its awkward, tell him it is a “friend date” (thats what I call it). Tell him you just want to go out for ice cream, coffee, etc… Try to do friend dates as often as you can. Making these dates are also a good time to observe signs if he really likes you or not. Try to find something that will not make him say no.
If you have further questions you id is Anonymous #0002
I can see that you are very attracted to this other girl…and it is definitely okay to like another female. But to know if you actually love this girl as a partner, you have to ask yourself this:
You must answer these questions to see if you really would want to be her partner. It is okay if you say no to one of these questions. I do understand how you fell. I, myself, have lost one of my best friends who was a female. I felt so comfortable with her and she understood me. One of the only ones that did. And I lost her. I am afraid she even be dead! And I miss her and would love to see her again.
But, do you have any contact information of this other female? Do you have her phone number, her E-Mail, her IM, her Facebook, Her Twitter, Her Instagram, Her Tumblr, Her YouTube, Her Pinterest, etc… Try to remember back if she would say “Oh I got a like on Facebook” or “Oh I got a like in Twitter” That will help you.
And if you can’t find her, it is okay. But do not forget her. People think that the best way of dealing with a loved one is forgetting about them. No. Do not do that. It is better to remember, so you won’t be as lonely, and have her in your heart. I do the same thing with the person I lost. She will always be in my heart and I even dream of her from time to time.
If you have any other questions, feel free to ask again, and so I will remember who you are just say you are anonymous #0001
Sometimes, people, including girls and boys, have a custom to doing something, for example, your girl…ex-girlfriend, might have a custom of hugging people for politeness. If not, she is showing you she still trusts you. A hug is one of the most obvious signs that someone trusts you.
I know that another answer could have been that she was cold, but if I were cold, I wouldn’t be hugging someone.
I understand that you just started the school year. First of all, good luck with your school and I hope you do well. Now back to the subject. Since you have the whole school year, I think you should get to know him more. Be closer to him. What I mean by this is to make him feel more comfortable with you. Try being one of his best friends first. Ask him out on “friend dates”*. He will definitely think you have something for him. After maybe a month of being best friends. You might want to say that you want to go out. Just be simple: “Hey…I’ve really enjoyed the time I have spent with you. And thanks so much for being such a good friend…but I think I want to take it to the next level. I mean [name of boy], I really like you.” if you want to invite him on a date, then you could continue talking and say “I am available [day + time of day].”
BUT…before you ask him out, in the month of two that you are friends with him, observe him. He might look cute, but what does he do. Please try not to ask him out if he does drugs, alcohol, smokes, or is a mean bully. But if he isn’t any of those then great. You also have to observe what he likes. Many girls have problems on what to get their boyfriend, but if you observe him in these one or two months, you will know his interests and habits.
And one last thing: If you really want him…and only him. Then focus on him. In school, it is hard to focus on just one person you like. There are various other cute boys that might slip into your eyesight and immediately catch your eye. It is OK. But if you only want him, then try to just focus on this “C U T E guy”
So just to summarize:
Okay, so just to define what going out is (because you said that you don’t want to be kissing all the time): Going out with someone, or being in a relationship with someone doesn’t necessarily mean holding hands, kissing, hugging all the time. I mean, maybe kiss once a day or even once two days, it doesn’t matter. A good relationship always consists of an honest couple, who is always truthful to each other and truly likes each other. There will definitely be times where you won’t see him for several hours in the day, and even adults go through this too. Just be honest with him , like him, and be happy. :-)
Hope my plan worked.
*friend dates - When you just want to “hang out” with your friend(s)
I understand that you want to make out with your boyfriend. The best move is to just, when you guys are kissing, put your arms around his neck and kiss him slowly and gently. He might get the message. If he doesn’t, just go for it. Act as if you were desperate for that one magical kiss. Once you are making out, if he has medium or long length hair, put your hand in the back of his head and start kind of massaging his hair. Guys love that.